First introduced in Genesis 2:22, we find that "ishshah" is the Hebrew word אִשָּׁה for a woman; and yet just three short verses later, it's the same word used for a wife! So we can reconcile that an ishshah is a woman personally chosen and designed by God to live out her capacity as a wife in the earth. And God's own wording confirms this! For Proverbs 18:22 says: "he who finds a wife (not just a woman), finds a good thing."
A Godly marriage is the union of one man and one woman consenting to live their lives together in holy matrimony (Genesis 24:58). According to Malachi 2:20, the arrangement itself is designed to help each spouse know (recognize, be acquainted with, appreciate, give heed to, and cherish) the Lord better. This very structure is a partnership whereby both parties help the other meet their God-given goals. And by so doing, they share, exchange and reflect God's love in the earth. Marriage is an exclusive and intimate relationship that is both glorifying to the Lord, and representative of His loyalty and oneness with us.
Although every female is anatomically born a woman, I believe that we must choose (just as a caterpillar does) to metamorphosize into wifehood. Because the character of a wife is a developed one. Wives are women who have willingly committed to living selflessly and submitted. We choose to support our marriages every day: mentally, spiritually, and socially. As Godly wives, we reflect our loyalty to our own husbands every day (Ephesians 5:22). Because being a wife is a choice. Any woman can marry a man. But it requires a sincere and concentrated effort to live as a helpmeet. It takes an earnest and genuine humility to daily and intentionally "help him meet his goals". And such an anointing eventuates and emerges gradually. For it’s not the priests' pronouncement at the altar that makes a wife, but it's every one of our deliberate decisions thereafter (Matthew 7:20).
And to help us, God has created ways that institutionalize us as ishshahs. He presents us with opportunities to pray, to show our husbands attention, respect and forgiveness, and to remain committed to keeping our part of the covenant; despite their behavior (1 Peter 3:1-2). It's our individual willingness to maintain, obey, and submit to what the Lord's will is for our marriage that makes all the difference. Ask God to increase these strengths and virtues in your life today, and receive a fresh anointing (Psalm 92:10).
The Lord knows how much pressure is required to remove the dark residue of life, or the protective coverings of your soul in order to release your indescribable shine.