"She opens her mouth in skillful and Godly Wisdom, and on her tongue is the law of kindness [giving counsel and instruction]."
Have you ever heard the phrase or been told, "If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all"? Though it can be embarrassing or even scolding, it's sound advice. It's good counsel. And it's one of the foundations by which the Proverbs 31 Woman structured her life.
Depending upon your audience, strong content and confident output may be all that's necessary to convey your message properly. Once. I believe this is what Jesus was trying to demonstrate in Luke 4:14-20. He said what He needed to, rolled up the scroll, gave it back to the altar worker, and had a seat. But sensing that the people needed (or wanted) more from Him, He began to expound on what He said. Maybe He didn't intend to say much at first. That's like some of us. We go into a conversation thinking, "I'm only going to say this once."
But sadly, that's not always the case. Sometimes we need to expound. Sometimes people require more understanding. So when we do speak to God's people (and let's remember that we're ALL God's people created in His image), we must ensure that what we're talking about is worthwhile, edifying, helpful, wise, kind, and skillful. Why waste your breath and time, and other people's mental data on hurtful, inciting, unproductive nonsense? How is God glorified in any of that?
So when it comes time for you to open your mouth, let God fill it (Psalm 81:10). Then share that and only that as He directs. He'll always speak words of skill, righteousness, wisdom, and kindness to His people. Because He loves us, likes us, and is committed to our success.
Lord, where I have not been edifying, encouraging, wise, helpful, or even polite in my communications please forgive me. Help me to do better. I want to do better, and my husband and the others in my life need me to do better. Fill my mouth. Fill it with Your words, laws, edicts, principles, and truths. Endow me with timing. Help me to be sensitive to Holy Spirit so that I can hear the exact words to deliver and so that I can know exactly how, where, and to whom I should deliver them. Let me know and share Your kindness while I'm sharing Your laws (giving counsel and instruction). Thank You for letting Your Words be in my mouth and for teaching me what to say (Exodus 4:11, 12). In Jesus name. Amen.